What if a lot of couples therapy, huge doses of assertiveness, tons of patience and a little common sense ... That is what is always transmitted to us when planning a relationship as a couple.
But almost everyone, the smartest 😛, we know perfectly well that reality is going in other directions. That theories are for theoretical situations and practice is subject to the dictates of temperaments, moods and the will to maintain love.
Rabih and Kristen are you and your partner. Years have passed and the fact that you cannot find the keys where you left them can lead to a new moment of confrontation with the person who lives with you and supports you (at the same time that you support her). Rabih and Kristen get three-quarters of the same thing. His love suffers from chronic fatigue, a fatigue that manifests itself in that space where coexistence intertwines customs, manias, tendencies and wills.
For this reason, due to that realistic recognition in the small, in the everyday, it is extremely interesting to indulge in this story of Rabih and Kristen, which does not pretend to be a self-help book, but rather a mirror where you can see those stupid little details from which you can generate empty conflicts. But it is also possible to draw out a certain need for those small shocks, so that one good day the light emerges, so that the brightness of a love that will never be like the first day will illuminate a calmed scene of sofa, arms and television. .
There will be those who want to cull an intention of indoctrination, with tricks to stop the moments of conflict. I just see a clear and straightforward explanation of what we are. The only trick for everything is negotiation, and there everyone must set their starting points.
Because dialogue, moreover, can always lead to misunderstandings because our predisposition is not always the best. Rabih and Kristen are ridiculous at times in their arguments, although fully recognizable. A couple that will end up making us smile and that will invite us, at least, to take things with a point of relaxation, to apply a domestic philosophy adapted to our way of being, without further ado.
You can buy the book the fatigue of love, by Swiss author Alain de Botton, here: