Ekubeni Freud Yaphehlelela uncwadi lwengqondo apho ukuqhuba, iminqweno, unxunguphalo kunye noloyiko kushukumisa i-cocktail yobuntu bethu, umkhosi wababalisi wangoku ungena uncedo ukusuka kwiindawo ezingafaniyo. Sithetha ngababhali ukusukela oko ISantandreu phezulu Dyer badlula kwabanye abangenazo inzululwazi ngendlela efundisayo, kodwa bengahoywanga kuloo msebenzi wokuthanda kulwazi kunye nokufumanisa kwangaphakathi.
Kwimeko Iziqendu zikaBernardo, okanye ubuncinci kumsebenzi wakhe obhaliweyo, ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo buba yi-axis apho yonke "ifilosofi ebalulekileyo" eyenziwe ngepragmatism ihamba. Amanyathelo alo naluphi na umbhali ozincedayo ahlala eqala kubunzulu bethu, ukusuka kuloo nkundla yangaphakathi elawula kunye namajelo ayo angabonakaliyo, ngamanye amaxesha afihliweyo kodwa ahlala eguqula okanye echaza ubuntu bethu.
Iincwadi ezi-3 eziphezulu ezicetyiswayo nguBernardo Stamateas
Abantu abanetyhefu
Ukuba besinencwadana yemigaqo yokufumanisa ixesha lokuqala labo bantu banetyhefu abakwaziyo ukwenza usuku lwethu okanye ubomi bube lusizi, singayisebenzisa ngaphandle kokuthandabuza olo lucalucalulo phantse lungaze lulunge malunga nethuba elibalulekileyo lomntu ngamnye esidibana naye. Nangona mhlawumbi sinokubuphelisa ubuthi babanye. Kwaye oko kunokuba kunciphise naluphi na ulwalamano.
Ungababona njani abantu "abanetyhefu"? Ungazikhusela njani kwaye usete imida? UBernardo Stamateas uphendula le mibuzo ngokucacileyo nangokuqiniseka. Ingcebiso yakho iyakusinceda senze ubudlelwane bethu busempilweni kwaye buqiniseke ngakumbi. Ngamafutshane, ziya kusinceda sonwabe ngakumbi.
Kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla asinakukuphepha ukudibana nabantu abanengxaki. Abaphathi abagunyazisiweyo nabangafanelekiyo, abamelwane abakhalazayo, abantu abasebenza nomona okanye abafundi, izalamane ezihlala zisigxeka ngayo yonke into, ikratshi, irascible okanye ixoka ngamadoda nabafazi? Bonke aba bantu 'banetyhefu' bayasicaphukisa, kodwa abanye banokubonakalisa ubomi bethu, batshabalalise amaphupha ethu, okanye basikhokelele kude neenjongo zethu.
Amanxeba emvakalelo
Kule ncwadi ndifuna ukwabelana nawe ngohambo lokuya kunye kunye nexesha elidlulileyo kunye nokuzilolonga kunye nemisebenzi elula, ndiphilise ixesha lakho elidlulileyo. Ixesha elidlulileyo belisakhiwa, bekukho abantu abangenelelayo, kodwa ikamva lakhelwe nguwe.
Sonke sidlulileyo kwaye kwilixa elidlulileyo siphila amaxesha abuhlungu, amava abuhlungu, iziganeko ezibi, ukuxhatshazwa ngamazwi. Asinakukutshintsha okwadlulayo kodwa sinokukuguqula kube ngamava axabisekileyo okwangoku.
Okwehleleyo kuthi kunokusenzakalisa kwaye okungazange kwenzeke kuthi kunokusenzakalisa. Enye yeentlungu zangaphambili zezinto esingaphiliyo kwaye enye zintlungu zekamva kwinto esingafikeleli kuyo. Yile nto ithetha ngayo le ncwadi, iphilisa elidlulileyo ukwakha ikamva elingcono.
Uyakwazi ukuphilisa ixesha elidlulileyo kwixesha langoku, akukaze kube kudala kakhulu. Kwaye unokuthelela abaninzi abenze ixesha labo elidlulileyo laba yibhulorho kwikamva lolonwabo nempumelelo.
Ukuzola ngokweemvakalelo
Ukuzola ngokweemvakalelo kusicebisa ukuba samkele kwaye samkele uloyiko esinalo, sithathe indawo yokoyika okungenangqondo neemvakalelo zokwenyani, someleze ukuzithemba kwethu nokuzithemba, kwaye sikhethe iingcinga ezijolise kwinto. Ngale ndlela sinokuguqula ukuba "andinabuganga" kuye "ndiyakwazi", kwaye senze iiprojekthi namaphupha ethu azaliseke.
Kule mihla ixhala, unxunguphalo, uloyiko lubonakala ngathi lungubhubhane ovelisa ukonakala ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasemzimbeni. Kule ncwadi, Iziqendu zikaBernardo ichaza izizathu ezihlala zibangela uloyiko kunye nokukhathazeka kubantu abaninzi. Phakathi kwabanye: Ndihlala ndikhathazekile / ndiziva ngathi andinako / ndohlukene, ndisoyika ikamva / ndidiniwe, ndidiniwe kwaye ndidiniwe / Ndiyoyika ukugula / Ndikhathazekile ngokungamkelwa / Ndiyoyika ukwenza utshintsho kweli nqanaba lobomi bam.
Nangona yonke into ejikelezayo ibonakala imnyama, sinokuhlala sikholelwa kwaye sibhengeze: "Lo ngumzuzu wam." Kungenxa yokuba amathuba awamiselwa ngurhulumente, nayimeko yezoqoqosho, okanye sisikhundla ekuhlaleni, nangayo nayiphi na enye into. Amathuba ahlala ekhona, ke kufuneka siwakholelwe kwaye sithathele ingqalelo ukuwabamba. Masiyonwabele ubomi, sigcine uvuyo kwaye sigcine uloyiko, ixhala kunye namaxhala kude ngonaphakade!
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