Kuchokera Freud adakhazikitsa zolemba zam'maganizo momwe zoyendetsa, zikhumbo, zokhumudwitsa ndi mantha zimasokoneza malo omwe timagwirira ntchito, gulu la olemba nkhani apano amalowa kudzithandiza kuchokera kumalo owala osiyana. Timalankhula za olemba kuyambira pamenepo Santandreu mmwamba Dyer kupyola mwa ena omwe ali ocheperako asayansi mu njira yawo yophunzitsira, koma osanyalanyaza pakuchita chifuniro cha chidziwitso ndi kuzindikira kwamkati.
Pankhani ya Zizindikiro za Bernardo, kapena m'ntchito yake yolembedwa, luntha lamalingaliro limakhala malo omwe "filosofi yofunikira" yopangidwa ndi pragmatism imasunthira. Masitepe a wolemba aliyense wodzithandizira nthawi zonse amayambira kuchokera pansi pathu, kuchokera kumalo amkati omwe amalamulira ndi njira zake zosayembekezereka, nthawi zina zobisika koma nthawi zonse amasintha kapena kufotokozera umunthu wathu.
Mabuku atatu apamwamba kwambiri a Bernardo Stamateas
Anthu oopsa
Tikadakhala ndi buku loti tidziwe nthawi yoyamba kuti anthu owopsa omwe amatha kupangitsa tsiku lathu kapena moyo wathu kukhala wopweteka, titha kugwiritsa ntchito mwayiwu osakayikira tsankho lomwe silimafanana ndi mwayi wofunikira wa munthu aliyense amene timakumana naye. Ngakhale mwina titha kuthetsanso poizoni wa ena. Ndipo izi zitha kuchepetsa ubale uliwonse.
Momwe mungazindikire anthu "owopsa"? Momwe mungatetezere ndikuyika malire? Bernardo Stamateas amayankha mafunso awa momveka bwino komanso motsimikiza. Upangiri wanu utithandizira kuti ubale wathu ukhale wathanzi komanso wabwino. Mwachidule, atithandiza kukhala achimwemwe kwambiri.
M'moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku sitingapewe kukumana ndi anthu ovuta. Mabwana ovomerezeka ndi osayenera, oyandikana nawo odandaula, anzawo ogwira nawo ntchito kapena anzawo omwe amaphunzira nawo, abale omwe amatidzudzula nthawi zonse pachilichonse, amuna kapena akazi onyada, okwiya kapena abodza? Anthu onsewa ndi 'owopsa' amatikhumudwitsa, koma ena amatha kuwononga miyoyo yathu, kuwononga maloto athu, kapena kutichotsera zolinga zathu.
Zilonda zam'mutu
Mubukuli ndikufuna kugawana nanu ulendo wopita limodzi m'mbuyomu komanso pochita masewera olimbitsa thupi komanso ntchito zina zosavuta, kuchiritsa zakale. Zakale zidamangidwa, panali anthu omwe adalowererapo, koma tsogolo limapangidwa ndi inu.
Tonsefe tidakhala m'mbuyomu ndipo m'mbuyomu nthawi zambiri tidakhala ndi nthawi zachisoni, zokumana nazo zowawa, zosautsa, zotukwana. Sitingasinthe zakale koma titha kuzisintha kukhala zokumana nazo zofunikira pakadali pano.
Zomwe zidatigwera zitha kutipweteka ndipo zomwe sizinatichitikire zikhoza kutipweteka. Chimodzi ndikumva kuwawa kwa zomwe sitikhala ndipo china ndi kuwawa kwamtsogolo pazomwe sitifikira. Ndi zomwe bukuli limanena, kuchiritsa zakale kuti apange tsogolo labwino.
Mutha kuchiza zakale munthawi yapano, sikunachedwe. Ndipo mutha kujowina ambiri omwe adapanga zakale kukhala mlatho wakutsogolo lachisangalalo ndi chipambano.
Mtima wodekha
Mtima wamtendere umatipempha kuzindikira ndi kuvomereza mantha omwe tili nawo, m'malo mwa mantha opanda pake ndi malingaliro enieni, kulimbitsa kudzidalira kwathu ndikudzidalira, ndikusankha malingaliro okhudzana ndi zochita. Mwanjira imeneyi titha kusintha "Sindingayerekeze" kukhala "Ndikhoza", ndikukwaniritsa ntchito ndi maloto athu.
Masiku ano nkhawa, nkhawa, mantha akuwoneka kuti akhala mliri womwe umawononga m'maganizo ndi mthupi. M'buku lino, Zizindikiro za Bernardo ikufotokoza zifukwa zomwe nthawi zambiri zimayambitsa mantha ndi kuzunzika kwa anthu ambiri. Pakati pa ena: Ndimakhala ndi nkhawa / ndimamva kuti sindingathe / ndinasiyana, ndikuopa zamtsogolo / ndatopa, ndatopa komanso ndatopa / Ndikuopa kudwala / ndikuda nkhawa kuti sindilandiridwa / ndili ndi mantha kuti ndipange kusintha pakadali pano m'moyo wanga.
Ngakhale kuti zonse zozungulira ife zikuwoneka zakuda, tikhoza kukhulupirira nthawi zonse ndikulengeza kuti: "Iyi ndi mphindi yanga." Chifukwa mipata siimaikidwa ndi boma, kapena ndi mkhalidwe wachuma, kapena ndi udindo, kapena ndi china chirichonse. Mwayi uli nawo nthawi zonse, chifukwa chake tiyenera kukhulupirira ndikukhala tcheru kuugwira. Tiyeni tisangalale ndi moyo, tisunge chimwemwe ndikuchotsa mantha, nkhawa ndi nkhawa kwamuyaya!
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