He maʻalea ko kēlā me kēia haku. A i kēia o ka kōkua kōkua, ʻO kēlā me kēia kanaka psychologist a i ʻole ka mea lapaʻau i kona ala ponoʻī e hoʻoponopono ai i nā pilikia o nā ʻano kumuhana like ʻole. A ʻaʻohe mea maikaʻi aʻe ma mua o nā puke maikaʻi i loaʻa i kēlā me kēia kanaka ka vademecum i kūpono loa iā lākou no ka hoʻoponopono hou ʻana, ʻo ka hope, pono mākou a pau i kēlā me kēia manawa.
ʻO Russia harris ʻAʻole ia he mea ʻē aʻe a ʻike mākou i nā hana he nui me ka hauʻoli e like me ke ʻano o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa hoʻomanaʻo e hoʻihoʻi i ka placebo o ka noho ʻana, ka lāʻau a mākou e ʻike ai pehea e hoʻēmi ai i ka ʻeha a puka ikaika mai ia mea. ʻO ka manaʻo o ka hihia ʻo Harris ʻo ia ka heluhelu ʻana i ʻāpana o kāna "Commitment and Acceptance Therapy." A ʻae, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo mai ka hoʻomaka ʻana, ke ʻae ʻoe i ka mea e hiki mai ana iā ʻoe a hoʻohiki i ka neʻe ʻana i mua, aia ʻoe i ka hapalua o nā wahi āu e hele ai.
ʻO nā puke kiʻekiʻe ʻoluʻolu ʻekolu na Russ Harris
ʻO ka pahele hauʻoli
I kekahi manawa ua lohe au i kekahi mea kākau ma ka lekiō, ʻo ia ke kala ʻana i kona hohonu melancholic maʻamau e like me kāna mau puke a pau, ʻōlelo ʻo ia i ke koena o ka lehulehu: "E kala mai, ʻaʻole wau i ʻike ua hauʻoli loa ʻoukou." Ua hele mai nā mea a pau mai kahi mea i hoʻohewa iā ia no kona manaʻo nui i ke kaumaha ma kāna mau puke a me kona ʻano i ke ola. ʻO ka nīnau inā hoʻopakele ka hoʻopunipuni iā mākou ...
Manaʻo ʻoe i kahi mehameha, luʻuluʻu, hauʻoli ʻole, palekana ʻole, a ʻoluʻolu ʻole paha, a ke hele nei i kahi helehelena hauʻoli, ke hoʻohālikelike nei ua maikaʻi nā mea āpau? Inā ʻae kāu pane, e hoʻomaha, ʻaʻole ʻo ʻoe wale nō. Hōʻike nā noiʻi ʻepekema hou loa ua hoʻopaʻa ʻia mākou i kahi pahele ʻike ʻole ʻia: kahi pōʻai kolohe kahi e nui ai kā mākou ʻimi ʻana no ka hauʻoli, ʻoi aku ka ʻeha o mākou i ka holo lōʻihi. ʻO ka mea pōmaikaʻi, ʻo ka pakele ʻana i ka "trap trap" i hiki i kahi psychotherapy hou i ʻike ʻia ʻo Commitment and Acceptance Therapy (ACT). Ma o nā kumumanaʻo ikaika ʻeono, hiki iā ACT iā ʻoe ke hana me ka ʻeha, lanakila i ka makaʻu, a kūkulu i kahi ola waiwai, piha a waiwai hoʻi.
ʻO kahi paʻi o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo
ʻO kahi 'slap reality' i nā ʻano ʻano like ʻole. I kekahi manawa ua like ia me ke kuʻi: ka make ʻana o kahi mea aloha, kahi maʻi nui, hemo male, ka nalowale o kahi hana, kahi ulia weliweli a i ʻole kahi kumakaia i manaʻo ʻole ʻia. I kekahi manawa palupalu iki. ʻO ka lili, ka mehameha, ka huhū, ka hoka ʻole, ka hōʻeha, a me ka hōʻole ʻana kekahi mea ʻeha pū kekahi. Akā ʻo kēlā me kēia ʻano o ka papaʻi maoli, hoʻokahi mea i maopopo: ʻeha! A ʻo ka hapa nui o mākou ʻaʻole ʻike maoli pehea e hana ai me ka ʻeha.
Hāʻawi kahi papaha maoli i kahi ala ʻehā i ka hoʻōla ʻana mai nā pilikia i hoʻokumu ʻia i ka ʻae a me ka hoʻokō paʻa. Ma kēia mau ʻaoʻao e aʻo ʻoe i: 'E ʻike i ka maluhia ma waena o kou ʻeha. ʻIke hou i ka mālie i waena o nā haunaele. E hoʻohuli i nā manaʻo paʻakikī i ke akamai a me ke aloha. Ke loaʻa nei ka ʻoluʻolu, ʻoiai ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa ka mea āu e makemake ai. E hoʻōla i kou mau ʻeha a puka ikaika aʻe ma mua o ka wā mau.
E maʻalahi loa
ʻOiai ke kani ʻana e like me ka ʻōlelo ʻōlelo "hana wale", ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo ka maʻalahi ke ala maikaʻi loa e pale aku ai i ka pili ʻana i ka psychologically. No ka mea pono, aia kahi manual holoʻokoʻa ...
Makemake ʻoe e kōkua i kāu mea kūʻai aku e ʻike i ka wikiwiki mai ko lākou ʻeha a neʻe i ke kūkulu ʻana i kahi ola piha a momona. ʻO ka Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) kahi hoʻohālikelike a me ka hana no ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa a me ke aʻo ʻana e pili ana i ka hoʻohana hou o ka noʻonoʻo a me nā waiwai. He alakaʻi ākea kēia puke i kēia ʻano hōʻike hōʻike mana ikaika, piha me nā pono hana, nā ʻenehana, a me nā hoʻolālā no ka hoʻonui ʻana i ka hiki i ke kanaka no kahi ola waiwai a waiwai hoʻi.
He kūpono kēia manual kūpono no nā mea hou i kēia hoʻomaʻamaʻa a me nā loea ʻike. E alakaʻi ʻo Coach kaulana ʻo ACT Harris iā ʻoe i kēlā me kēia ʻāpana i loko o ke ʻano hoʻohālike a pau o ACT i kahi ala hoihoi a leʻaleʻa. Ma kēia paʻi hou, e ʻike ʻoe: o Kahi alakaʻi ma kēlā me kēia kau e hoʻokō pono ai iā ACT. Nā mokuna hou e pili ana i ke aloha pilikino, ka hilahila, ka hōʻike ?? Nā mākau 'mākau' a me nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka hoʻokahuli ʻana i nā 'hurdles therapy'. Pehea e hoʻohana ai i ka mea hana mana hou i kapa ʻia ʻo 'snap point'. ʻO kahi nui o nā kākau kākau, nā hoʻoikaika kino, nā kiʻikuhi manaʻo, a me nā pepa hana
Ke hana nei au me "The Happiness Trap" a ʻaʻole wau e ʻōlelo nei he kupua, akā pono loa nā mea hana i manaʻo ʻia. He mea maʻalahi ka manaʻo hāmama a hoʻomau i ka hana i kēlā me kēia lā. Pono wau e ʻōlelo e loaʻa iaʻu nā hopena maikaʻi loa. Paipai kēia moʻomanaʻo blog iaʻu e heluhelu i ka "A Smack of Reality" a me "Keep It Simple," na Russ Harris pū kekahi.
Makemake wau e paipai iā ʻoe e heluhelu i kēia mau puke me ka manaʻo o ka hoʻohana ʻana i kā lākou ʻike a me nā kumuwaiwai e ʻoluʻolu a ola e like me nā waiwai āu e makemake ai, i ʻole ʻoe e mihi inā hoʻohana ʻoe i kou manawa a makemake e hana ma ia mea.