Kusukela Freud uvule incwadi yezengqondo lapho okushayela khona, izifiso, ukukhathazeka nokwesaba kuvusa i-cocktail yobuntu bethu, iqembu lababalisi bamanje lingena ukuzisiza kusuka ekukhanyeni okungafani. Sikhuluma ngababhali kusukela lapho I-Santandreu up Dyer bedlula kwabanye abangenalo ulwazi lwesayensi ngendlela yabo efundisayo, kodwa abanganaki ekusetshenzisweni kwesifiso sokuthola ulwazi kanye nokutholakala kwangaphakathi.
Endabeni UBernardo stamateas, noma okungenani emsebenzini wakhe obhaliwe, ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo kuba iksisi lapho yonke "ifilosofi ebalulekile" eyenziwe nge-pragmatism ihamba khona. Izinyathelo zanoma yimuphi umbhali wokuzisiza zihlala ziqala kusukela ekujuleni kwethu, kusukela kuleso sithangami sangaphakathi esibusa ngemigudu yayo engalindelekile, ngezinye izikhathi efihliwe kodwa ehlala iguqula noma ichaza ubuntu bethu.
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Abantu abanobuthi
Ukube besinomhlahlandlela wokunquma okokuqala labo bantu abanobuthi abakwazi ukwenza usuku lwethu noma impilo yethu ibe lusizi, besizoyisebenzisa ngaphandle kokungabaza leyo micabango ecishe ingalungeki ngethuba elibalulekile lomuntu ngamunye esihlangana naye. Yize mhlawumbe singakwazi nokuqeda ubuthi babanye. Futhi lokho sekuzobunciphisa noma yibuphi ubuhlobo.
Ungababona kanjani abantu "abanobuthi"? Ungayivikela kanjani futhi usethe imingcele? UBernardo Stamateas uphendula le mibuzo ngokucacile nangokuqiniseka. Izeluleko zakho zizosisiza senze ubudlelwane bethu bomuntu siqu buqine futhi buhle. Ngamafuphi, zizosisiza sijabule ngokwengeziwe.
Empilweni yethu yansuku zonke asikwazi ukugwema ukuhlangana nabantu abanenkinga. Izinduna eziphethe futhi ezingafaneleki, omakhelwane abakhonondayo, osebenza nabo noma abafunda nabo esikoleni, izihlobo ezihlale zisola ngakho konke, amadoda nabesifazane abaqhoshayo, abacasulayo noma abaqamba amanga? Bonke laba bantu 'abanobuthi' bayasicasula, kepha abanye bangalimaza izimpilo zethu, baqede amaphupho ethu, noma basiholele kude nezinhloso zethu.
Amanxeba angokomzwelo
Kule ncwadi ngifuna ukuhlanganyela nawe uhambo lokuya ndawonye esidlule nangezivivinyo ezisebenzayo nemisebenzi elula, ngiphilise okwedlule. Okwedlule kwakhiwa ngokubambisana, kwakukhona abantu abangenelela, kepha ikusasa lakhiwa nguwe.
Sonke sinesikhathi esedlule futhi kuleso sikhathi esedlule besiphila izikhathi ezibuhlungu, amava abuhlungu, izehlakalo ezihlukumezayo, ukuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi. Asikwazi ukuguqula okwedlule kepha singakuguqula kube yinto ebalulekile yesikhathi sethu.
Okwehlele kungasilimaza nathi futhi okungenzekanga kithi kungasilimaza. Obunye ubuhlungu besikhathi esedlule ngalokho esingakuphili kanti obunye ubuhlungu bakusasa ngalokho esingakufinyeleli. Yilokho okushiwo yile ncwadi, ukwelapha okwedlule ukwakha ikusasa elingcono.
Ungakwazi ukuphulukisa okwedlule esikhathini samanje, akukephuzi kakhulu. Futhi ungajoyina abaningi abenze isikhathi sabo esidlule saba ibhuloho lekusasa lenjabulo nempumelelo.
Ukuzola okungokomzwelo
Ukuzola okungokomzwelo kusiphakamisa ukuthi sibonise futhi samukele ukwesaba esinakho, sishintshe ukwesaba okungenangqondo ngemizwa yangempela, siqinise ukuzethemba kwethu nokuzethemba kwethu, futhi sikhethe imicabango eqonde ezenzweni. Ngale ndlela singaguqula u- "Angilokothi" siye ku- "Ngiyakwazi", futhi senze amaphrojekthi namaphupho ethu afezeke.
Kulezi zinsuku ukukhathazeka, ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba kubonakala sekuwubhadane oludala umonakalo kokubili ezingeni ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba. Kule ncwadi, UBernardo stamateas ichaza izizathu ezivame ukudala isimo sokwesaba nosizi kubantu abaningi. Phakathi kokunye: Ngiphila ngikhathazekile / nginomuzwa wokuthi angikwazi / ngahlukana, ngiyasaba ikusasa / ngikhathele, ngikhathele futhi ngikhathele / ngesaba ukugula / ngikhathazekile ngokungamukelwa / ngiyesaba ukwenza ushintsho kuleli phuzu empilweni yami.
Nakuba yonke into ezungezile ibonakala imnyama, singahlala sikholwe futhi simemezele: "Lesi yisikhathi sami." Ngoba amathuba awanqunywa uhulumeni, noma isimo sezomnotho, noma isikhundla emphakathini, nanoma yini enye. Amathuba ahlala ekhona, ngakho-ke kufanele sikholwe futhi siqaphele ukuwathwebula. Masijabulele ukuphila, silondoloze injabulo futhi sigcine ukwesaba, ukukhathazeka nokukhathazeka kude unomphela!
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