Kukho amaxesha apho laa ndoda yayingqongwe zizidenge ibe ngumntu ngamnye kuthi. La ngamaxesha apho, ekugqibeleni, sifumanisa ukuba siqhuba kuhola wendlela apho bodwa abangalunganga siziqu zethu. Kwaye ngokusengqiqweni iziphumo inokuba kukuba sizigximfize ngokwethu ..., sithatha esinye isikweko esithambileyo, esingenakuqonda.
Kodwa isizathu yile nto unayo. Isizathu sethu ngumkhuseli omkhulu wazo zonke izizathu zethu, ukusuka kweyona nto ingaqhelekanga ukuya kweyona njongo.
Kwaye apha sifika entliziyweni yalo mbandela. Asingabo bonke abaziziyatha njengoko bebonakala, kwaye akukho nqaku lokuzibetha sicingela ukuba simele sibe ngabo babonakalisa ukuqina kwethu okungapheliyo.
Yintoni uThomas Erikson asiphakamisela yona kule ncwadi lulwalamano esilumiselayo phakathi kwe-SUBJECTIVITY - REALITY - OBJECTIVITY, yonke le nto ijongene nonxibelelwano kunye nohlobo lonxibelelwano. Ukukhanya komzekelo, kwentaphane yemizekelo ethiwe thaca kuthi kule ncwadi kuya kusinceda ukuba sijonge kwakhona iziphene zethu xa sinxibelelana, kunye nokubona ubugwenxa obungaphandle komthumeli wemiyalezo esinayo phambi kwakhe (ukuqonda ngokusuka kwakho). umfazi okanye abantwana kumphathi wakho, edlula kwi-bureaucrat ngefestile 4 ozama ukuqonda into oyichazayo)
Ukulungisa imiba eyahlukeneyo yonxibelelwano, ngakumbi incoko yababini, ingasinceda ukuba sikhuphe ngcono kwaye sifumane zonke iintlobo zemiyalezo. Ukukhumbula ukuba inyani sisimbuku sezinto ezixhomekeke kuzo ezimiselwe ukuba zikwazi ukuzinyanzela omnye komnye, iya kusinceda kuloo mbono yovelwano, ukuqonda kunye nokuhambisa ngeyona ndlela ingcono kakhulu yonke into esifuna ukuyazisa.
Kwaye ke ukukhanya kunokwenziwa ekugqibeleni, kwaye zonke ezo zidenge ziya kuba zinyamalele kwimbono yakho egqwethekileyo yenyani. Kuba ewe, umntu okrelekrele njengawe awunakuchitha ubomi bakhe bonke ezama ukukuqonda ngezidenge, kuba uya kuphelela ekubeni ungomnye wabo ... 🙂
Ungayithenga incwadi Indoda eyayingqongwe zizidenge, yamva nje evela kuThomas Erikson, apha: