Yonke inkosi inobuqili bayo. Futhi kulokhu ukuzisiza, sonke isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esizihloniphayo noma umelaphi unendlela yakhe yokuxazulula izinkinga zezimo ezihlukahlukene ezizimele. Futhi akukho lutho olungcono kunezincwadi ezinhle ukuze wonke umuntu abe ne-vademecum ebafanele kangcono ukusetha kabusha okudingekayo, ekugcineni, sonke esikudingayo ngezikhathi ezithile.
URuss harris ngokufanayo futhi ngekhredithi yakhe sithola imisebenzi eminingi enenjabulo njengombono ovela kulolo hlobo lokuzivocavoca ukuze kubuyiselwe i-placebo yokuphila, umuthi esiwaziyo sonke ukuthi ungawenza kanjani ukuze unciphise ubuhlungu futhi siphume sinamandla odabeni. Iphuzu endabeni ka-Harris ukwenza ukufunda kube yingxenye ye-"Commitment and Acceptance Therapy" yakhe. Futhi yebo, iqiniso liwukuthi kusukela ekuqaleni, lapho wamukela okuza kuwe futhi uzibophezele ekuqhubekeleni phambili, uphakathi nendawo lapho uya khona.
Izincwadi Ezinconyelwe ezi-3 eziphezulu nguRuss Harris
Ugibe Lenjabulo
Ngesinye isikhathi ngezwa umbhali emsakazweni owathi, ethethelela ukujula kwakhe okujwayelekile kwe-melancholic ehambisana nazo zonke izincwadi zakhe, waphawula kuzo zonke izethameli: "uxolo, bengingazi ukuthi nonke nijabule kangaka." Konke kwavela kothile owayemgxeka ngokugcizelela kwakhe ukudabuka ezincwadini zakhe ngisho nesimo sakhe sengqondo ngempilo. Umbuzo uthi ingabe ukukhohlisa kuyasisindisa...
Ngabe uzizwa unesizungu, unesithukuthezi, ungajabule, ungazethembi noma unganelisekile futhi, naphezu kwakho konke, wenza ubuso obujabulisayo, wenze sengathi konke kuhamba kahle? Uma impendulo yakho inguyebo, yehlisa umoya, akuwena wedwa! Izifundo zakamuva zesayensi ziphakamisa ukuthi siphila iziboshwa ogibeni olungabonakali: umjikelezo ononya lapho silwela kakhulu injabulo, kulapho sihlupheka khona ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Ngenhlanhla, ukuphunyuka "ogibeni lwenjabulo" kwenziwa kwaba nokwenzeka nge-psychotherapy entsha entsha eyaziwa ngokuthi yi-Commitment and Acceptance Therapy (ACT). Ngezimiso eziyisithupha ezinamandla, UMTHETHO ukwenza ukwazi ukubhekana nobuhlungu, unqobe ukwesaba, futhi wakhe impilo ecebile, egculisayo nenenjongo.
Impama yangempela
'Impama yangempela' ithatha izinhlobo eziningi ezahlukene. Kwesinye isikhathi kufana nesibhakela: ukushona kothandekayo, ukugula okungathi sÃna, isehlukaniso, ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi, ingozi embi noma ukukhashelwa okungalindelekile. Kwesinye isikhathi ithambe kancane. Umona, isizungu, intukuthelo, ukwehluleka, ukudumazeka, nokwenqatshwa nakho kungalimaza kakhulu. Kepha noma ngabe iyiphi impama oyithathayo yangempela, into eyodwa iqinisekile: iyalimaza! Futhi iningi lethu alazi ngempela ukuthi lingabhekana kanjani nobuhlungu.
Impama yangempela inikeza indlela enezingxenye ezine yokuphulukiswa ezinkingeni ezisuselwa ekwelashweni ekwamukelweni nasekuzinikeleni. Kula makhasi uzofunda ukuthi: 'Thola ukuthula phakathi kobuhlungu bakho. Phinda uthole ukuthula phakathi nezinxushunxushu. Shintsha imizwelo enzima ibe ukuhlakanipha nozwela. Ukuthola ukwaneliseka, noma ungakutholi okufunayo. Philisa amanxeba akho bese uphuma uqine kunanini ngaphambili.
Kugcine kulula
Naphezu kokuthi kuzwakala njengesiqubulo esithi "yenza nje", iqiniso liwukuthi ukulula kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokugwema ukubhajwa ngokomqondo. Kunoma ubani okufanelekile, kukhona imanuwali ephelele...
Ngabe ufuna ukusiza amaklayenti akho ukuthi athole ukukhululeka okusheshayo ekuhluphekeni kwabo futhi aqhubekele ekwakheni impilo ephelele, ecebile? Ukwelashwa Kokwamukelwa Nokuzibophezela (UMTHETHO) kuyimodeli eyingqayizivele neyakhayo yokwelashwa nokuqeqeshwa ngokuya ngokusetshenziswa okusha kokucabanga namanani. Le ncwadi iyisiqondisi esibanzi sale ndlela enamandla yokusekela ubufakazi, igcwele amathuluzi, amasu namasu okukhulisa amandla abantu okuphila okunothile nokunenjongo.
Leli bhukwana elisebenzisekayo lilungele bobabili abasanda kufika kulolu hlelo lokwelapha kanye nodokotela abanolwazi. Umqeqeshi we-ACT owaziwayo uRuss Harris uzokuqondisa igxathu negxathu kuyo yonke imodeli ye-ACT ngendlela ehehayo nejabulisayo. Kulolu shicilelo olubukeziwe, uzothola: o Umhlahlandlela weseshini-nge-seshini wokuqalisa ngempumelelo UMTHETHO. Izahluko ezintsha ngokuzidabukela, amahloni, ukuvezwa ?? Izingxenye 'zamakhono' namathiphu okunqoba 'izithiyo zokwelashwa'. Ungalisebenzisa kanjani ithuluzi elisha elinamandla elibizwa nge- 'snap point'. Inani elikhulu lemibhalo, izivivinyo, izingathekiso, namashidi okusebenzela
Ngisebenza ne-"The Happiness Trap" futhi angisho ukuthi iwumlingo, kodwa amathuluzi ewaphakamisayo awusizo kakhulu. Kulula ukuba nengqondo evulekile futhi uphikelele emsebenzini wansuku zonke. Kufanele ngisho ukuthi ngithola imiphumela emihle kakhulu. Lokhu kufakwa kwebhulogi kungikhuthaza ukuthi ngifunde "I-Smack of Reality" nethi "Kugcine Kulula," kanye noRuss Harris.
Ngifuna futhi ukukukhuthaza ukuthi ufunde lezi zincwadi ngombono wokusebenzisa okuqukethwe kwazo nezinsizakusebenza ukuze uzizwe ungcono futhi uphile ngokwamagugu owafunayo, ukuze ungazisoli uma usebenzisa isikhathi sakho nentando yakho sebenzela kuso.