Kwenye yeencwadi zakhe ezilungileyo, Iseti ye-Elsa isungula ingxaki yolonwabo kwisihloko esele ityhila okuninzi kwe-enigma kwindlela eya kwinqanaba lokuoneliseka okuphezulu: ulonwabo indlela yakho. Alukho ulonwabo olunokubakho ngaphandle kokwamkelwa koko ungaphezu kwento onayo okanye ongenayo.
Kwaye eneneni leyo yingcamango ye-neuralgic ejikeleze wonke umsebenzi ka-Elsa. Iincwadi zeefomathi zesincoko, ngaphezulu kokuzinceda ngokwakho. Izimvo ngaphezulu kwezichaso ezingenakuphikiswa.
Isithandi sobulumko ngobizo kunye noqeqesho, kunye nomdla kunye noqeqesho kumculo njengomdlali wepiyano, uElsa udlulisela loo mvakalelo yokulawula, yomonde kunye nesiqu esithi kule mihla sifune iimpendulo ezikhawulezayo kuyo yonke into.
Iincwadi zakhe zibubutyebi obuncinci bengcinga yemihla ngemihla, intanda-bulumko yemihla ngemihla, mhlawumbi eyona igqwesileyo kwiintanda-bulumko zobuqu.
Iincwadi ezi-3 ezinconyelwe ngu-Elsa Punset
Ikhampasi yabantu abasebenza ngephenyane
Lo mfanekiso ubukrelekrele ngokulula, njenge-aphorism ekhanyayo esimemayo ukuba sifunde kukhangelwa loo khampasi yangaphakathi ihamba noMntla ixinezelekile kuthi sonke. Sihlala sikholwa, kungakumbi kufuneka sikholelwe, ukuba ubukrelekrele bethu, ukuqiqa kwethu kusibonisa inyaniso yelizwe.
Eyona nto yenzekayo kukuba sizifihle iimvakalelo. Ukunikezelwa kobu bungqina, ukuqala ukufunda le ncwadi kunokuba yinto enkulu yokufumanisa. Incwadi yokuqala kaElsa, ngokoluvo lwam, yeyona ilungileyo. Siyakwazi ukuzoba imbono yethu yehlabathi, siyiqulunqe kwaye ekugqibeleni siyichaze kwincwadi elungileyo, eya kuhlala iyinto yokuqala.
Isishwankathelo: Kwinzulu yemvelo yethu asicingi, uxolo. Senziwe ziimvakalelo. Ukutyhubela iinkulungwane siye sazama ukuwenza mbuna, ukuwatshixa kwiinkqubo zobomi ezilungeleleneyo nezicinezelayo. Ejamelene nemiyalelo yakhe, ekuphela kwento awayenokuyenza yayikukurhoxa okanye ukuvukela.
Okwangoku siphila kwihlabathi elisoyikisayo ngezilingo kunye nezigqibo ezininzi kwaye kufuneka sithathe isigqibo sodwa, ngaphandle kwezalathiso ezicacileyo, ukuba singoobani kwaye kutheni kufanelekile ukuhlala nokulwela. Le nkululeko intsha ifuna ukufunyanwa kwekhampasi, oko kukuthi, izakhono kunye nezixhobo ezisivumela ukuba sihambe ngobukrelekrele bemvakalelo ngeendlela ezingalindelekanga zobomi bethu.
Le ncwadi igubungela izigaba ezahlukeneyo zokukhula ngokweemvakalelo kunye nentlalontle yomntu, kungekuphela nje njengomntu, kodwa nangokunxulumene nabantu abenza indawo esingqongileyo: abazali, abantwana, amaqabane, oogxa, abahlobo...
Ukungena kwinkulungwane yama-XNUMX, iimvakalelo, enkosi kwiminyango evulwe yi-neuroscience, zinokufakwa kwikhathalogu, ziqondwe kwaye zilawulwe: zizitshixo kwiziko lethu lemithambo-luvo, nokuba yingqondo, umphefumlo, isazela okanye inkululeko yokuzikhethela. Ukuzazi kusivumela ukuba sifumane imithombo yolonwabo, umsindo wethu kunye neentlungu zethu ukuze sihlale ngokuvisisanayo nangokugqibeleleyo nathi kunye nabanye.
Ubhaka wendalo iphela
Ngesi sihloko ngakumbi kutata wakhe UEduardo Punset, U-Elsa ungena kuloo ntsimi yeemvakalelo ezingapheliyo kunye nokubonakaliswa kwayo okubaluleke kakhulu, ukunxibelelana nabanye, ukusebenzisana nommandla, ukulungiswa phakathi kwezinto esizivayo kunye noko sikuvakalisayo.
Isishwankathelo: Kufuneka kuhlale ixesha elingakanani ukwanga? Kunceda ntoni ukulila? Singenza ntoni ukutshintsha amathamsanqa ethu? Ngaba ukuthandana kunenjongo? Kwaye kutheni intlungu yentliziyo ingenakuphepheka? Sikufunda njani ukoyika? Siqala ukuxoka ukususela kwiminyaka emingaphi? Kutheni sinomona? Bangaphi abahlobo esibafunayo ukuze sonwabe? Ngaba sinokukuphepha ukuxinezeleka ngokungeyomfuneko? Kutheni le nto indoda ikhathalele ngaphezu komfazi ukuba imoto yayo ikrweliwe? Kwaye, ngaphaya kwewaka lokutya okumangalisayo, ngaba akhona amaqhinga eemvakalelo okwehlisa ubunzima?
U-Elsa Punset uphendula le mibuzo kunye neminye emininzi, edlulayo kunye nemihla ngemihla, kule ncwadi, ekhulelwe "njengesikhokelo esincinci seendlela ezahlukeneyo" ezihamba ngejografi yeemvakalelo zomntu ngenjongo yokwenza kube lula ngathi ukuqonda oko kusingqongileyo, yiqonde.ukubaluleka kobudlelwane bethu nabanye, fumanisa ukuba kuninzi okusidibanisayo kunoko kusahlulayo, fumana iindlela ezisebenzayo zokunxibelelana, ukulawula ubudlelwane phakathi komzimba nengqondo, ukomeleza ukuhamba kovuyo esiluqulathileyo, sizilungelelanise sifezekise iseti kwaye sifezekise iinjongo zethu kwaye sincede ubuchopho bomntu buchasane notyekelo lwayo lwangaphakathi "lokusinda ngoloyiko kunye nokungathembeki."
Kuba, njengoko u-Elsa Punset ebonisa ngamazwi acacileyo nalula, ukuguqula ubomi bethu kunye nobudlelwane bethu "asifuni kakhulu njengoko sicinga: ubhaka okhanyayo uhambelana nento esinceda ukuba siqonde kwaye silawule ubunyani obusingqongileyo." Into eyimfuneko. isikhokelo sokuqonda abanye kwaye uhambe ngempumelelo kwindalo yonke yeemvakalelo.
Uyolo (yonwabile indlela yakho)
Silugqiba udidi ngencwadi yakhe yamva nje. Isindululo esenza konke oku kungentla, kugxilwe kuphela kwisiphumo sokugqibela sokwazi indlela yokuphatha thina, yokutolika imeko-bume, yokukwazi ukuva ... ulonwabo lokuphila.
Isishwankathelo: Kucacile. Ayithathi kangako ukonwaba. Kwaye ukwenza ukutshayela kwembali kuqinisekisa kuphela le nyaniso. Ngaba ikhona enye impucuko eyadlula kulo mhlaba yonwabile?
Ukonwaba kukucinga okuqinisekileyo okunokuhlengahlengiswa ngokugqibeleleyo kulokho kukhoyo. Ngokuchanekileyo, into ekhoyo ngoku kukuphazamiseka okuninzi, amaphupha afinyeziweyo, izithixo zodongwe, izikhombisi ezingenanto zokuziphatha kunye nezentlalo, iingcinga zentengiso kulonwabo lwezinto eziphathekayo.
Ewe, kusenokwenzeka ukuba asonwabanga ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na enye impucuko eye yatyhubela eli hlabathi. Kulapho le ncwadi intsha ichaza khona: Uyolo: Ulonwabo Indlela Yakho, nguElsa Punset. Asikuko nokuba ndizithanda kakhulu iincwadi zokuzinceda, kodwa andiqondi ukuba nayo le. Kunokuba luhambo oluya kwixesha elidlulileyo, kobo bulumko bunamathele ngakumbi kumhlaba kunye neemeko zabantu ngabanye, imbono ekude kakhulu kweli lizwe loqhagamshelwano, ngokukhawuleza kunye neembekiselo ezinokukhubazeka.
Ukwazi indlela ookhokho bethu abakude abanokonwaba ngayo kunokumangalisa kwaye kukhanyise malunga nokubhideka esihamba kuyo. Abona babalaseleyo bomzuzu ngamnye wembali basinika ubungqina kolo khangelo lolonwabo, oluhlala lunzima kodwa alusoloko lugqwethiwe njengangoku.
Ukuba uyazivumela ubunewunewu bokuthatha olu hambo, uyakuthi uthabathe idosi enkulu yenyani malunga nolona lonwabo lungaqondakaliyo, olukhoyo kunye nokuhlala nabantu abalinganayo kunye nendalo, leyo yokuphefumla kunye nokufuna ithamsanqa lakho phakathi kolungiselelo, oko kukuthi fumana xa unokukhululeka kancinci kunokuba kunokwenzeka ngoku.
