Yonke inkosi ineqhinga layo. Kwaye kule uncedo, yonke isazi sengqondo esizihloniphayo okanye ingcali yonyango inendlela yayo yokusombulula iingxaki zendalo eyahlukeneyo. Kwaye akukho nto ingcono kuneencwadi ezilungileyo ukuze wonke umntu abe ne-vademecum eyilungele ngokufanelekileyo ukusetha kwakhona okuyimfuneko, ekugqibeleni, sonke siyayidinga ngamaxesha athile.
URuss harris akukho nto ihlukileyo kwaye kwityala lakhe sifumana imisebenzi emininzi enolonwabo njengolundi ukusuka kolo hlobo lokuziqhelanisa nenkumbulo ukubuyisela i-placebo yokuphila, i-potion esiyaziyo sonke ukuba yenziwe njani ukuthomalalisa iintlungu kwaye siphume somelele kulo mba. Inqaku kwimeko kaHarris kukwenza ukufunda kube yinxalenye yakhe "UkuZibophelela kunye noNyango loKwamkeleka." Kwaye ewe, inyani kukuba kwasekuqaleni, xa usamkela into eza kuwe kwaye uzibophelele ekuqhubeleni phambili, uphakathi kwendlela oya kuyo naphi na apho uya khona.
Iincwadi ezi-3 eziphezulu ezinconywayo nguRuss Harris
Umgibe wolonwabo
Ngesinye isihlandlo ndeva umbhali kunomathotholo owathi, ethethelela ubunzulu bakhe obuqhelekileyo be-melancholic ngokuhambelana nazo zonke iincwadi zakhe, wathi kubo bonke abaphulaphuli: "uxolo, bendingazi ukuba nonke nonwabile." Konke oko kwakuvela kumntu owayemgxeka ngokugxininisa kwakhe kusizi ezincwadini zakhe nakwisimo sakhe sengqondo ngobomi. Umbuzo ngowokuba ingaba ukunganyaniseki kuyasisindisa...
Ngaba uziva ulilolo, udikiwe, ungonwabanga, unganqabisekanga, okanye ungonelisekanga kwaye, ngaphandle kwayo yonke into, wonwabile, usenza ngathi yonke into ihamba kakuhle? Ukuba impendulo yakho nguewe, yehlisa umoya, ayinguwe wedwa! Izifundo zenzululwazi zamva nje zicebisa ukuba sivalelwe kumgibe ongabonakaliyo: umjikelo okhohlakeleyo apho sizama ngakumbi ukonwaba, kokukhona sihlupheka ekuhambeni kwexesha. Ngethamsanqa, ukuphuncuka "kumgibe wolonwabo" kwenziwa ukuba kubekho unyango lwengqondo olutsha olubizwa ngokuba yi-Commitment and Acceptance Therapy (ACT). Ngemigaqo emithandathu enamandla, UMTHETHO ukwenza ukuba ukwazi ukujongana neentlungu, ukoyisa uloyiko, kunye nokwakha ubomi obutyebileyo, obanelisayo nobunenjongo.
Impama yenyani
'Impama yokwenyani' ithatha iindlela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo. Ngamanye amaxesha kufana nenqindi: ukusweleka kothandekayo, isigulo esibi, uqhawulo-mtshato, ukuphulukana nomsebenzi, ingozi embi okanye ukungcatshwa okungalindelekanga. Ngamanye amaxesha ithamba kancinci. Umona, isizungu, ingqumbo, ukungaphumeleli, ukuphoxeka, kunye nokugatywa nako kunokusenzakalisa. Kodwa nokuba yeyiphi na eyona nto uyithathayo ngempama, inye into eqinisekileyo: ibuhlungu! Kwaye uninzi lwethu aluyazi indlela yokujongana nentlungu.
Impama yokwenyani inikezela ngendlela enamacandelo amane ekuphiliseni kwiingxaki ezisekwe kulwamkelo nasekuzinikeleni kunyango. Kula maphepha uya kufunda: 'Fumana uxolo phakathi kwentlungu yakho. Phinda ufumane ukuzola phakathi kwesiphithiphithi. Guqula iimvakalelo ezinzima zibe bubulumko kunye nemfesane. Ukufumana ukoneliseka, nokuba awufumani nto uyifunayo. Philisa amanxeba akho kwaye uphume womelele kunangaphambili.
Yenza kube lula
Nangona ivakala ngathi "yenza nje" isilogeni, inyani yeyokuba ukulula yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuphepha ukubanjiswa ngokwasengqondweni. Kubani na ukuba kufanelekile, kukho incwadi yonke...
Ngaba uyafuna ukunceda abathengi bakho bafumane ukukhululeka ngokukhawuleza ekubandezelekeni kwabo kwaye baqhubele phambili ekwakheni ubomi obupheleleyo, obutyebileyo? Ukwamkelwa kunye noNyango lokuZibophelela (UMTHETHO) ngumzekelo owahlukileyo kunye noyilo lonyango kunye noqeqesho olusekwe kusetyenziso olutsha lwengqondo kunye nexabiso. Le ncwadi sisikhokelo esibanzi kule ndlela inamandla esekwe kubungqina, igcwele izixhobo, ubuchule kunye nezicwangciso zokwandisa amandla abantu obomi obutyebileyo nobunentsingiselo.
Le ncwadana yemigaqo ilungele abo bafikayo kolu nyango kunye neengcali ezinamava. Umqeqeshi owaziwayo we-ACT uRuss Harris uya kukukhokela ngenyathelo ngenyathelo kuyo yonke imodeli ye-ACT ngendlela ebandakanyekayo neyonwabisayo. Kolu hlelo luhlaziyiweyo, uya kufumana oku: Izahluko ezitsha zokuzisizela, iintloni, ukubonakaliswa ?? Amacandelo 'ezakhono' kunye neengcebiso zokoyisa 'imiqobo yonyango'. Ungasisebenzisa njani isixhobo esitsha esinamandla esibizwa ngokuba yi 'snap point'. Inani elikhulu leempendulo, ukuzivocavoca, izifaniso kunye neephepha lokusebenzela
Ndisebenza kunye ne "The Happiness Trap" kwaye anditsho ukuba ngumlingo, kodwa izixhobo ezicebisayo ziluncedo kakhulu. Kukulungele ukuba nengqondo evulekileyo kwaye uzingise kumsebenzi wemihla ngemihla. Ndimele nditsho ukuba ndifumana iziphumo ezihle kakhulu. Olu ngeniso lwebhlog lundikhuthaza ukuba ndifunde "I-Smack of Reality" kwaye "Gcina Ilula," ikwanguRuss Harris.
Ndifuna ukukukhuthaza ukuba ufunde ezi ncwadi ngombono wokusebenzisa umxholo kunye nezixhobo zazo ukuze uzive ungcono kwaye uphile ngokweenqobo ozifunayo, ukuze ungazisoli xa usebenzisa ixesha lakho kunye nentando yakho. sebenza kuyo.