Hoʻokahi ka honua, akā he nui nā ʻano maoli. ʻOiai ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he ʻano kumuhana kumuhana o ke kanaka. ʻO ka manaʻo e nānā a wehe i ka mea maikaʻi loa mai kēlā me kēia kūlana, synthesizing i ka mea a ko mākou naʻau e hāʻawi mai iā mākou. ʻO ia kahi e hele ai ka Gestalt therapy ma ke ʻano he koho lapaʻau ʻē aʻe. kōkua kōkua. A mai laila mai hiki ke hoʻonui ʻia i nā wahi like ʻole o ka noho pū ʻana o ke kanaka. No ka mea ma waena o nā kihi he nui o ka nānā ʻana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo loli he mea maʻamau ka hiki ʻana mai o nā paio.
Ua ʻike nui ke kanaka i ia mau mea a pau. ʻO Joan Garriga nāna mākou e hōʻea i kāna mau puke i ke ʻano hana e kū ai i nā pilikia ma nā wahi ʻohana a i ʻole i kēlā mokulele ʻoi aku ka nui e hoʻokele nei i loko o kā mākou hui kūloko. No ka mea mai loko mai kahi ʻano o ka hoʻomaikaʻi. Ma muli o ka loli e wehewehe i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ma mua o nā hopena, hōʻike ʻia iā mākou me nā mea ʻē aʻe a me nā kālepa. ʻO ka koho maikaʻi loa, ka hoʻoholo, a me ka manaʻo e loaʻa wale mai kēlā manaʻo i loko.
ʻO 3 mau puke i manaʻo ʻia e Joan Garriga
Aloha maikaʻi i loko o ka wahine
He mea pono ke aloha kūpono i ʻole e huikau me ka nui o nā wehewehe ʻana e pili ana i kēlā mea e uhi ana i ka huaʻōlelo. Ma waho o nā ʻāpana o ke aloha a i ʻole nā kūlana e hoʻoikaika ai a hoʻonāwaliwali paha iā ia, e hōʻailona ana i nā ala i manaʻo ʻole ʻia, ʻo ke aloha maikaʻi ʻo ia ka mea e hoʻokumu ai i kahi pilina pili ʻuhane ʻoiai nā mea āpau.
ʻAʻole kēia kahi puke e pili ana i ka mea e hana ai a i nā mea ʻaʻole e hana ai i kahi pilina. ʻAʻole ia e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā hiʻohiʻona kūpono. 'Speaksleloʻo ia e pili ana i nā pilina like ʻole, me kāna mau alakaʻi ponoʻī a me nā ʻano o ka hoʻokele. Akā ʻo kēlā mau pilikia e hana maʻamau a hewa paha i nā mea ʻelua, a me nā mea hana e kōkua a pale paha i ke kūkulu ʻana i kahi pilina maikaʻi a mālama iā ia. Hoʻohui, hāʻawi ia i nā kuhi i hiki i kēlā me kēia mea ke loaʻa i kā lākou iho hoʻohālikelike, kā lākou hoʻohālikelike a me ko lākou ʻano noho ma ke ʻano he kāne.
ʻO Joan Garriga, Gestalt psychologist a me ka loea i nā constellations ʻohana, he mea lapaʻau akamai i ʻike i nā kāne he nui i hele mai ma o kāna kūkākūkā ʻana, e hōʻike maopopo ana i ka pilina ʻaʻohe maikaʻi a hewa ʻole, hewa a hala ʻole, pololei a hewa paha. "He aha nā pilina maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole: nā pilina e hoʻonui ai iā mākou a me nā pilina e hoʻomāʻewaʻewa iā mākou. Aia ka hauʻoli a me ka pōʻino. He aloha maikai a he aloha ino. ʻAʻole lawa ke aloha e hōʻoia i ka maikaʻi: pono ke aloha maikaʻi.
E ʻōlelo i ke ola
Ke noʻonoʻo nei i ka hauʻoli ma ke ʻano he pae e alakaʻi iā mākou i kahi huakaʻi momona ma o ke ola ʻana he mea lapuwale ia no ka mea ʻole a hoʻonāukiuki paha. Loaʻa nā mea a pau ma kona ʻaoʻao, ʻo ka hauʻoli hoʻi e pono ai ke kaumaha e lawe i ke ana o ke ʻano a me ka mea hiki ke lilo.
Ua ʻike mākou ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hauʻoli mau, a ʻoiai mākou e ʻike nei i kēia ʻoiaʻiʻo, manaʻo mākou ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke alo i ka ʻeha a me ka ʻeha ke ʻike ʻia lākou me ka ʻike ʻole. Akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole e ʻike ʻia nā manawa momona o ke ola me ka ikaika inā ʻaʻole i loaʻa nā lā ʻawaʻawa. Inā pilikia mākou no ka mea hiki iā mākou ke aloha, akā ua hōʻailona ʻia nā pilina e ka nalowale, kumakaia a me ka hakakā; nā pilikia e hoʻokahuli ai iā mākou a i kekahi manawa e hiki ai iā mākou ke hoʻohuli i ko mākou mau ʻeha i kahi manawa kūpono e ulu.
I loko o kēia puke manaʻolana, hāʻawi ʻo Joan Garriga iā mākou i kāna mau makahiki ʻoi aku ma mua o kanakolu a me kona ʻike e aʻo ai mākou e hele i loko o kahi manaʻo e like me ka paʻakikī e like me ka ʻeha a aʻo mai iā mākou, me he mea lā e noho ana mākou i kahi kau lapaʻau a ma o nā hiʻohiʻona maoli. e hoʻomaopopo iā ia, e hoʻokipa a hoʻololi iā ia i mea ikaika e hiki ai iā mākou ke lanakila i ka pilikia.
Aia mahea na dala? ʻO nā kī o ka pilina i loaʻa ma waena o nā keiki a me nā mākua
Ua aʻo mua ʻo Confucius iā mākou ʻo ia wale nō ka mea ʻike pehea e hauʻoli ai me nā mea āpau hiki ke hauʻoli mau. Ma kēia laina, e holo ana mai nā conformisms passive a me ka haʻalele wahaheʻe, ʻike mākou ʻo ka ʻōlelo huna e wehe ana i nā puka o ka hoʻokō pilikino i hana ʻia me kahi syllable maʻalahi: YES. AE. I ke ola, e like me ia. Iā mākou e like me mākou. I kekahi poʻe, e like me lākou. I ko mākou mau mākua, e like me lākou a me lākou, nā kaʻa providential o ko mākou ola a me nā mea hou aku.
ʻO kēia ka ʻōlelo a Joan Garriga Bacardí i hōʻike ai i loko o kēia puke, ma ke ʻano he poetic e hoʻoulu ai i ka noʻonoʻo a me ka hoʻololi ʻana, ma kahi mea koʻikoʻi e pili ana iā mākou a pau: ke kaʻina hana o ka manaʻo ʻana i ko mākou kumu, ka hoʻoilina ʻohana a me ka loaʻa ʻana o ko mākou wahi ma ka honua. . Hoʻolauleʻa ka kikokikona i ke ola me ka ʻole e hoʻokaʻawale i kona ʻano maoli a me ka makaʻala, e neʻe ana mai kahi noʻonoʻo maikaʻi.
Aia mahea na dala? Hāʻawi ia i nā hiʻohiʻona hou no ka ʻuhane, i ka poʻe i pilikia i ka wā e noʻonoʻo ai i ko lākou mau mākua a me ka poʻe e hana me ka mahalo. ʻŌlelo ia i ka ʻōlelo o ke kuʻikahi a me ka maluhia. Hōʻike ia i ka mana o ke aloha a me ke ala e hoʻohui a lanakila i nā ʻeha e keʻakeʻa ana i ka piha o ke ola o kekahi.
