The world is one, but reality is multifaceted. As long as reality is a subjective composition of the human. The point would be to observe and extract the best from each situation, synthesizing what our senses give us. That's where the Gestalt therapy goes as another treatment option. Self Help. And from there it can be extended to very diverse areas of human coexistence. Because among so many angles of view on a variable reality it is normal for conflicts to come.
A man knows a lot about all that. Joan Garriga who makes us arrive in his books the modus operandi to face problems in family spaces or in that other much more extensive plane that somehow governs in our internal forum. Because any form of improvement has to come from the inside out. Because in the variability that defines reality, rather than solutions, we are presented with alternatives and trade-offs. The best choice, decision, and attitude come only from that inner focus.
Top 3 recommended books by Joan Garriga
Good love in the couple
Qualifying love is useful so as not to be confused with a multitude of interpretations about that entity that covers the word. Regardless of the phases of love or the circumstances that strengthen or weaken it, marking the most unexpected paths, that is good love, the one that establishes an almost spiritual cordiality despite everything.
This is not a book about what to do or what not to do in a relationship. It does not speak of ideal models. It talks about diverse relationships, with its own guidelines and styles of navigation. But also of those issues that usually make things work or go wrong in a couple, and of the ingredients that facilitate or hinder building a good relationship and maintaining it. In addition, it gives clues so that each one can find their own formula, their model and their way of living as a couple.
Joan Garriga, Gestalt psychologist and specialist in family constellations, an expert therapist who has seen many couples come through his consultation, makes it clear that in relationships there are no good or bad, guilty or innocent, just or sinners. «What there is are good and bad relationships: relationships that enrich us and relationships that impoverish us. There is happiness and misery. There is good love and bad love. And love is not enough to ensure well-being: good love is needed.
Say yes to life
Thinking of happiness as a thread that leads us on a sweet journey through existence is as absurd as it is useless and frustrating. Everything exists by its opposites, also the happiness that requires sadness to take a measure of what it is and what it can become.
We know that we cannot always be happy, and although we are aware of this reality, we feel unable to face pain and suffering when they appear without warning. But the truth is that the delicious moments of life would not be experienced with such intensity if the bitter days did not exist. If we suffer it is because we are capable of loving, but relationships are marked by loss, betrayal and conflict; difficulties that overwhelm us and that sometimes cause us to be unable to turn our wounds into an opportunity to grow.
In this hopeful book, Joan Garriga gives us his more than thirty years of experience and his knowledge so that we learn to go through an emotion as complex as suffering and teaches us, as if we were sitting in a therapy session and through real examples, to recognize it, welcome it and turn it into a strength that allows us to overcome adversity.
Where are the coins? The keys to the bond achieved between children and parents
Confucius already teaches us that only he who knows how to be happy with everything can always be happy. In this line, fleeing from passive conformisms and false resignation, we discover that the password that opens the doors of personal fulfillment is made up of a simple syllable: YES. YES. To life, as it is. To us as we are. To others, just as they are. To our parents, as they are and as they were, providential vehicles of our existence and much more.
This is the message that Joan Garriga Bacardà reveals in this book, as poetic as it induces reflection and change, on an essential matter that concerns us all: the process of assuming our origin, our family legacy and finding through it our place in the world. The text celebrates life without detracting from its realism and rawness, moving away from an artificial positive psychology.
Where are the coins? It offers new perspectives for the soul, both to those who suffer when thinking about their parents and to those who do so with gratitude. It speaks the language of reconciliation and peace. It shows the power of love and the path to integrate and overcome the wounds that hinder the fullness of one's life.
